Insights, experiences, and a shared journey

Welcome to the Survivor Voices blog, a space dedicated to shedding light on important topics surrounding abuse, exploitation, trauma, recovery, grooming, and self-rediscovery. Here, you'll find a collection of observations, insights, and thoughts designed to empower and connect us all. Join us as we explore these vital themes together.

Observations and blogs

Don’t forget to have fun I forgot. I couldn’t name what felt light. Couldn’t tell you anything that I did for fun, for no other reason than it brought me joy. I could list chores and tasks. I could give you my “To Do” list. I could describe what I was getting done and when. But, fun? Not so easy, not so accessible. Things are shifting. The lightness of life is creeping gently back into my life and heart. I can do something just because I want to, because it feels easy and aligned. Because it naturally makes me smile without trying. It doesn’t have to be costly or complicated either. Cheap, free and simple is often the way. Today I played football with my dog, well chase the football for the dog. I also did some colouring in and drawing, no end result in mind. Tomorrow I’m meeting up with a friend to go for a dog walk and to put the world to rights. I’ll write what comes to mind, build what feels true. Fun can be found in conversations with friends, in favourite tv and films, in dancing solo in the kitchen, in making your space comfortable and cosy, in laughter with trusted souls and acquaintances who lighten the day. In daftness with your pets, in giggles with family, with the kids in your life. Grown up kids at heart too. In planning and creating, in cooking and crafting. In clearing out and welcoming in. In old jokes and those “you had to be there” stories shared over a cuppa. In aloneness and solitude. In letting go.

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Doors 

An interesting day or so. Doors shifting.
Realisations becoming part of the new foundation.

Today I received brilliant news regarding an opportunity to use my experiences in a positive way. Doors opened to a new pathway, still the same journey but a new, bright route, aligned and connected with my purpose and beliefs.
Yesterday I received challenging news about a door resisting my use. An opportunity that had arisen but now appearing to need my boundaries to move in order to walk through.

One door I happily and peacefully enter. The other I gracefully decline.

The decisions and how I reached them shone a light on my personal growth and alignment, my healing and my true path.

The pause I deliberately used, stepping back, distancing myself from the impulse to react, giving myself time and space. Filling that space will music, pet companionship, contact with friends, some comfort TV; allowing my mind and body the space needed to process and navigate a way to answers that fitted me and them on all possible levels.

 

By Sebastian Etienne

 

Our stories, our strength

This blog is a platform for sharing diverse experiences and perspectives. We delve into the complexities of abuse and exploitation, the journey of recovery, and the path to self-rediscovery. Each post is crafted to offer valuable insights, fostering understanding and solidarity among our readers.

Make our streets safe again?

Make our streets safe again Reading this again and again. I wonder what time in history they are referring to? Which town, country, street? When were children safe? Who were they safe from? I live in a region with low recorded crime rates. A region where the population is 96% white, Scottish and British. A beautiful area of rural Scotland, picturesque and peaceful. Small schools. Plenty of green space. Families going back generations living in the same towns. Farms, lochs, rivers and glens. Local family businesses and shops. Yet I and others endured decades of harm and abuse. Yet grooming rings, paedophile rings, grooming gangs; group based organised sexual abuse and sexual exploitation of children and adults both existed and thrived for many decades and will be happening right now. Make our streets safe. Safer. Safeguard. Prevent abuse and harmProtectSupport survivors Increase awareness and knowledge about the techniques used by abusers, how exploitation and rape rings/ gangs operate, Advocate and campaign Give survivors a voice, authentically Empower children Empower communities Address the multiple gaps in safeguarding Address the inequalities in access to justiceStop the cover ups Listen to survivors But please stop the insistence that we used to be safe. That was never the case.

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They walk with me

I no longer want to silence them, fight or restrict them. I no longer want to keep them hidden. No longer will I hide myself from them. I no longer want to be separate or isolate myself from their truth.

The ghosts. The people lost along this path.
Other people. Parts of me.
Echoes and segments.

People I loved silently and lived beside without saying what truly mattered.
The survivors I knew
The survivor I was, again and again.

I will walk beside them now.
United. Together.
I will let them in
Invite them home.

They are the reasons I’m still here
They are the reason why I now speak.
They are my memories
They are my friends
They are my pain but also my purpose.
They are me

Parts of me I keep locked away
Parts of me that I feel guilt and shame about
Parts of me I abandoned
Parts of me I need back.

People from long ago
Friends who didn’t make it through
Friends who lost all that was stolen from them, friends who lost more
Family passed, deeply missed
Acquaintances who I’d recognise by the pain unspoken, crossed paths in a world we tried to forget.

People I wish I’d done more for, said more.
People I couldn’t reach then.
People who live on in my memory.
In my heart

Tonight I bring them home

 

By Sebastian Etienne

 

Our stories, our strength

This blog is a platform for sharing diverse experiences and perspectives. We delve into the complexities of abuse and exploitation, the journey of recovery, and the path to self-rediscovery. Each post is crafted to offer valuable insights, fostering understanding and solidarity among our readers.

Who we write for

Our words are for survivors, professionals, advocates, and safeguarding personnel. They are for families, friends, and communities—for all those committed to preventing harm and raising awareness. We aim to reach anyone seeking to understand, support, or be supported on these crucial topics.

Empowerment through knowledge

After reading our blog, we want you to feel empowered, informed, and connected. We hope to provide knowledge that strengthens your understanding and aligns you with a community of support. Together, we can find strength and light the path towards recovery and positive change. For more information, please contact us at [info@survivorvoices.org.uk]